The Book
The Four Weeks
A workbook companion to Love Everyone, Build Anyway. Four weeks of questions, arranged in an order that works, with enough space to answer them honestly.
The workbook
The book is the easy part. Doing the work is not.
Reading about this does very little. The exercises are the part that changes anything, and almost nobody does them alone.
This is not a course. Nobody is going to teach you anything. It is four weeks of questions, in an order that works, with room to answer them by hand.
Week one is diagnostic — finding where your grip actually is. Week two is work and money, and it is the uncomfortable one. Week three is the people in your life. Week four is building something you can keep.
$97
39-page PDF, print it or write on screen
Two rules
“Nobody reads this but you. That is the entire condition under which it works. The moment you are writing for an audience — even an imagined one — you will produce a performance, and a performance is not information about your life.”
Before you start
Inside
Four weeks, day by day
Five exercises a week. Short enough to fit into a working day, uncomfortable enough to be worth doing.
Week One
What You Are Holding
Diagnostic. We are not fixing anything yet — we are finding out where your grip is.
Day 1. The Two Columns — what you control, and what you have been worrying about instead
Day 2. The Rehearsal Audit — count the conversations you rehearse that never happen
Day 3. The Four in the Morning Question — follow the fear down to what is actually underneath it
Day 4. What You Have Survived
Day 5. The Load-Bearing Beliefs
Week Two
Work and Money
The commercial week, and the most uncomfortable one.
Day 1. The Service Statement — name the actual human being at the end of your work
Day 2. Extraction or Contribution — audit your five main income sources
Day 3. The Circulation Audit — is it a reserve, or is it a fear?
Day 4. The Good Year
Day 5. Five People — who can you help who cannot help you back
Week Three
The People
The hardest week. Where most of the real cost of a working life shows up.
Day 1. The Frustration Map — who received it, and did they cause it
Day 2. The People You Owe Nothing
Day 3. The Defended Decision — and what another six months of defending it will cost
Day 4. One Relationship, Full Attention
Day 5. The Amends
Week Four
What You Build On
Construction. Everything before this was diagnosis.
Day 1. Design the Seven Minutes — a practice that survives your worst day
Days 2–7. Run It — with a tracker, logging only whether it happened
Day 5. The Failure Ledger — what it cost, and what it made possible
Day 6. The Obituary — written as your child would write it
Day 7. The Two Sentences
How it is made
Designed to be written in.
Every question has ruled space underneath it. Print it, or open it on a tablet and write straight onto the page.
There is a reason for the handwriting. Typed answers come out tidier than they should. Something about writing by hand makes it harder to produce the answer you think you are supposed to give.
Week dividers, a seven-day practice tracker, and enough white space that it does not feel like homework.
$10
The book on its own — 138 pages$97
Book, workbook, private group, one-to-one callWhat you get
The Four Weeks
Everything in the book, plus the parts that make it stick.
01
The book — PDF and ePub, yours to keep02
The workbook — 39 pages, four weeks, day by day03
A private group for the cohort04
Thirty minutes with me, one to one05
Every future book, includedQuestions
Before you start
Can I buy the workbook on its own?
No. It only works alongside the book, and the group and the call are what get people to finish it. If you only want to read, buy the book at $10.
How much time does it take?
About twenty minutes a day. The questions are designed to sit in the background of an ordinary working week and be answered in pieces — the drive home, the ten minutes before a call, an hour on a Sunday.
Do I have to print it?
No, but it helps. Handwriting makes it harder to produce the answer you think you should give. If you write on a tablet instead, that works too.
Does anyone see my answers?
Nobody. That is the entire condition under which it works. The group is for the parts you choose to say out loud, and nobody there is required to share anything.
When is the call?
At the end of week two, once you have done enough work to have something specific to bring. You will get a booking link after you join.
What if I fall behind?
Then you fall behind. The workbook is yours permanently and the group does not close. Most people take longer than four weeks and that is fine.
Refunds?
Refundable until the cohort begins. After that the group has formed and the materials are with you.
Four weeks
Nobody reads this but you.
Twenty questions, in an order that works, with enough room to answer them honestly.
Free
The Sunday Letter
One idea a week on work, money and practice — plus the first chapter of the book, free. No noise, no selling.